It was a rainy day in October when a few of us got together–old friends reconnecting. We talked about our past, our present, and our future. There were some awkward pauses… but we listened to each other. We spoke of our hopes and desires for the future. We wondered together about life and community and the intersections of our lives. We left each other with the plan to get together again soon. It was a really good conversation… but still I left with something nagging me… like the feeling you get when you can’t remember something but its right on the “tip of your tongue”… like there was something just outside of my conscious senses that I couldn’t quite put my finger on.
What does “love” look like? I was talking to God the other day and He asked me that question.
. . .
Well… it looks like spending time with someone.
— then spend time with someone.
And, it looks like research.
— then get to know someone. Really learn about them, their heart, their desires, what matters to them.
And, it looks like sacrifice.
— then, give up that thing that is standing in your way [from doing the above]
It seems so hard. I mean to really love. If feels beyond my ability.
— It is a marathon, not a sprint. Learning to really love takes time. It is a journey that requires healing and compassion and trust. It doesn’t happen all at once. Stop beating yourself up. Make the decision to head down this path. And remain open and mindful of “what love looks like” to you.
Maybe Love isn’t as far away as it seems.
What does love look like to you? Would you be willing to have this conversation with God?
Try it and see where it leads. I’d love to hear what he says to you.