The other night I cheated on my wife. Well, sort of. It felt like it. It was all part of a disturbing dream I had. Ever have those? A dream so real you wake up wondering if it’s all true? I hate these kinds of dreams. They leave me feeling dirty and sad and hopeless and ( in this dream), helpless, without control. I awoke in a sweat.
As I replayed the scenario over and over in my mind, a thought began to emerge, a thought about ‘real life’ — it’s not inevitable, I have a choice. Cheating doesn’t start with “cheating“. What I mean is, cheating starts with an idea, entertained early on.
In the same way, choosing to not cheat starts with a decision. I’m not talking about a decision made as you walk to someone’s bedroom (although its never too late to stop and RUN!), but I’m talking about a decision made early on. You must answer the questions: Will I cheat? Will I entertain the thoughts coming into my mind?
If we wait until we are faced with the temptation, it may be too late. Like waiting until we’re holding a donut in our hand and trying to decide whether or not we should eat it. Or like driving a car toward the edge of a cliff, the closer we get before deciding to put on the brakes the more likely we will go over the edge.
So, we must decide to decide.
We are all tempted in some way. Maybe its blatant. Sex. Some of us Continue reading “Did I Just Cheat on My Spouse?”